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How to ask your transgender girlfriend to move in

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So your transgender date magically turned into your girlfriend. You want to seal the deal somehow and move on to the next level.

There are a lot of joys when it comes to living in with your partner. As a transgender woman, my perspective is coming from a “wifely” role lol.  I thoroughly enjoyed being domesticated and being the perfect homemaker for my ex=boyfriend.  The utter joy overshadowed my minuscule pet peeves like used clothes on the floor and shoes everywhere.  I’m talking about my personality so be sure that you really know your transgender girlfriend before moving in with her.

Find the Perfect Timing

Chances are that your transgender girlfriend is working.  You have to understand your girlfriend’s current situation. If she lives with her parents in order to save from rent, make sure that you can afford to handle the monthly bills.  If you have them covered but your girlfriend seems to have a big ego and doesn’t want you to handle everything, find a way to make her comfortable about you paying for everything.

Tell her that you’re not asking her for anything, you just really want to be by her side as much as you can.  Be wise with your words and make her feel like it’s an ultimate dream to be living with you. If she is paying for her own place, chances are that she’d want to share the rent with you but never oblige her.

Just be chivalrous about your proposal and I’m sure she’ll say yes.

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Impress Her

Make her think that you want her to move in with you not because you need a dishwasher, cook, etc. Tell her that you can do your own laundry, cook your own food and that you’re not a baby that’s way past puberty. Also make her think that you hate chaotic surroundings (walk your talk, start cleaning everything now lol).  Giving her a vibe that you’re not going to be a burden for her will surely make your transgender date say yes to living with you.

Invite Her

Stage your house like from a viewing of a real-estate company.  Apart from cleaning every side and corner of your house, make sure that it smells really good.  Get rid of all the unnecessary clutter and make your house look like it can still offer some space for her stuff.  I know how hard it must be to share a cabinet but you have to make compromises if you really love someone.

Be Sincere

The rest of the tips can go but you must above everything else, be sincere.  Tell her the reasons why you want to move in with her.
Open your heart to your trans date. I’m sure she will agree to move in with you.  Remember to let go of your selfish ways once she moves in with you.  You’re about to build a wonderful future.

Best of luck to you.



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Amanda Valentine Dela Cruz
Just a random trans woman playing with makeup and skincare. Loves bacon and the operating table. I'm also the author of the dating guide book Dating Transgender Women for Gentlemen. Know more ->

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