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Celebrating Being Alone On Valentines Day

Amanda Valentine Dela Cruz
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The world tends to put a lot of pressure on couples on Valentine’s day. However, while this is happening, people alone on Valentine’s day are indirectly pressured as well. This is why it’s comforting to know that there are ways to celebrate this day without having a partner.

If you want to know what to do on Valentine’s day alone, keep reading.

Why being Single is Okay

Before talking about being alone on Valentine’s day, you must remember why being single is okay. There are many advantages to being single, it’s not as bad as it seems.

You have FULL CONTROL of your LIFE

In this world, you’re never going to have the picture-perfect partner you’re dreaming of. Surprising relationship dynamics will come your way because everyone’s unique. Having this piece of knowledge is the secret to happiness.

working woman

However, along with this comes the possibility of not having full control of your life. Yes, you may argue that the perfect person will always compromise. But you must know that compromise is not a one-way street.

This is why, if you are single, you have the upper hand in molding your life the way you want it to be. From the way you want to decorate your home, to how you want to dress up, and whether you decide to be lazy and just eat Chinese takeout regularly. Suffice to say, FULL CONTROL.

Less Drama

Yes, harmonious relationships exist. But you must not forget the fact that one less relationship means tenfold less drama. This is especially truer if that relationship is more intimate in nature.

no stress woman

If you are single, you’re not going to have to worry about a myriad of things. These include whereabouts, late replies, disagreements, and more. Your mind will be free of unnecessary thoughts that are curtailing you from better things in life.

Furthermore, you won’t have to deal only with your partner. Sometimes, they have people in their circle that won’t be too pleased with you. Family, friends, colleagues, will sometimes have negative opinions about you which further the possibility of drama.

Fewer Insecurities and Jealousy

If you’ve been in a relationship, you’re already aware of how one can bring out insecurities and jealousy. These are negative emotions that you don’t want to associate with. These are common in relationships.

an happy woman

Being single will afford you fewer of these. Instead of being stressed about the people surrounding your partner, you’ll have more focus on improving yourself.

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Alone On Valentine’s Day… but Happy!

A lot of single people alone on Valentine’s day wallow in sadness. They watch romantic-comedies all night while eating chocolates ala Elle Woods on Legally Blonde. There’s nothing wrong with doing so.

You can watch, cry, and express your emotions to your heart’s desire. It can be healthy in a way because you’re releasing negative feelings. However, being depressed is not. This is why if you don’t want to subject yourself to the possibility of the latter, you must CELEBRATE being alone instead.

February 14 is Just Any Other Day

If you keep associating February 14 with Valentine’s day and you’re single, you’re going to feel the pressure of being coupled. This is why you must erase this notion and have a cocktail party for one instead. Order your favorite food, put on some music of your choice, and drink!

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Think of this day as something else other than Valentine’s day. Look up other important historical events that happened on February 14 and celebrate that instead. You can also invent it as something else. You’re single, the world is your oyster!

If you have a pet, you can also name February 14 as your pet’s day. Devote all of your time and energy to make your pet feel special. Buy all of its favorite snacks and give it new toys. After all, it deserves being extra pampered more than once a year.

Date Your Single Parent

Many people have single parents. This may be due to many factors. However, none of those are important. What matters is that you are willing to express your gratitude to the person who has raised you on their own.

pappy mom and daughter

Love comes in all forms. This does not only pertain to romantic and sexual love. This is the perfect time to give back to your parent. Take them out on a date and shower them with gifts. Make them feel that even if they don’t have a romantic partner, they’re still loved.


A lot of single people are quite career-driven. This is why many of them tend to neglect self-love. If you’re one of them, it’s time to regain what’s lost. If you’re alone on Valentine’s day, you should do many activities to pamper yourself.

girl during massage

One of the best ways to pamper yourself is by getting a new hairstyle. Try a new color while you’re at it. They say that people who are about to get a new haircut are about to change their lives. Maybe doing this little act will bring about a new chapter in your life.

You can also get your nails done and get a relaxing massage. Anything that will make you feel good about yourself is a must. If you can afford it, go to a spa and try all the beautifying treatments available.

Give Yourself a Gift

Many people are probably receiving gifts on Valentine’s day. Why miss out when you can afford to buy yourself one. Spoil yourself by replenishing your wardrobe. Go shopping and buy new accessories. After all, you’ve been working so hard and a little swipe of the credit card won’t hurt.

a girl with credit card

Have you been resisting the urge to buy something because you feel that it’s too expensive, forget that thought! It’s time for a phone upgrade and it’s also time to buy that Chanel bag.

If you’re a guy and you’ve been holding back from pimping out your car, now’s not the time. You can also buy that gaming console that you’ve been eyeing. You deserve to love yourself because only then, will you truly ever learn to love somebody else.

Alone On Valentine’s Day… but Hopeful

Although independence is very healthy, there’s also nothing wrong with being optimistic. It may be the reason why you’re reading this article. If you are looking for love in the world of transgender dating, you must follow the tips below.

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Strategically Position Yourself

If you don’t want to be alone on Valentine’s day next year, you must strategically position yourself this year. If you haven’t made an account on My Transsexual Date yet, you’re missing out on a lot of wonderful single people who are looking for love. Especially if you are looking for TS dating !

Believe In Love

Hope is good but false hope is not. This is why you must truly BELIEVE in love. For it to arrive at your doorstep, you must practice daily affirmations. If you tell yourself that you are worthy of love every day, it’s eventually going to come to you.

Don’t Give Up Easily

Should you get your heart broken again, you must not easily give up. After all, the best love stories are chock full of ups and downs. Maybe your story is meant to be legendary. Just hang in there.

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About the author

Amanda Valentine Dela Cruz
Amanda Valentine is a transgender woman who has written about trans topics for over 10 years for My Transgender Date. She is an author who made it on Amazon’s best-seller list by writing 5 books on trans women’s relationships. Her book “Dating Transgender Women for Gentlemen” peaked at #3 in the Transgender Studies category on Amazon. She started writing at the age of 10 and won a poetry contest in 4th grade which convinced her to pursue a career in literature. Her personal experiences as a transgender woman give her a unique perspective on trans topics.

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