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Saving transgender women’s dignity online

Maki Gingoyon
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What results do you usually receive every time you search for transsexuals, transwomen, transgenders or any keywords relating to it? Often you see that the first page of the results are filled with adult websites.

Try opening a site or two and you will be routed to a page showing explicit images. A dazzling word shemale on your screen with a couple of adult video clips. On on a separate page, you will be given a menu not for food, but for almost naked transgender women and some are fully naked trans women, selling their bodies.

A very good example to this are transsexual dating sites, which are commonly used as decent facade covering these indecent images. Worst transgender dating site it self advertised trans women as object of men’s fantasy. Are all these what defines a trans women? Of course not,but we know that people tend to believe what they see online. Which somehow leads the public to generalize transgender women as carnal fantasy and only for one night stands. Do we still have dignity left out of this? As a woman? as a human being?

Alright let us cut to the chase and admit it! Yes we are an object of carnal fantasy. And websites offering adult services are there, and there is nothing much that we can do about it. It is so hard to change nor to stop it. However despite of indecent images, we trans women are strong enough to fight against this stereotype and save our dignity. I believe that unforgiving critics and unfair generalizations should not be tolerated.

We should not accept that the images that they see on the internet is the only basis to define our being. Transgender women are not just hump objects nor women who are only for one night stands and we must prove them wrong!

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The basis to generalized trans women should not be about these sensually explicit images.  There are genetic women in adult movies and adult services sites yet they are not generalized as such. Women comes in different kinds and so as transgender women. There are a lot of trans women who are living like other cisgender women do. Transgender women with a decent work like a nurse, therapist, doctor and other medical work related. Other teach in the university and some are business owners. Not to mention the world of fashion has been invaded by beautiful trans women too. Leah T, Isis king are one of the few names the made a mark as a model.

Transgender women who have decent jobs need to be seen by the society.  And this can surely help save our dignity and gain the respect that we are asking for. Like transgender women from USA organized various of groups to let people be aware about our decent existence. Developing transgender women to a more empowered individuals with a help of trans advocate and trans organization is a big factor too. Not to mention that promoting awareness of our human rights is a big role played by LGBT Organizations. And I also believe that the way we present our selves to the public and they way we carry our selves has also a big impact in saving our dignity.

Our individual growth as a trans women is not the only one benefited from saving our dignity. But men who are attracted and interested to date with a transgender are also benefactors. Saving our dignity save men from  the public’s cruel judgement that they received. Although there are a lot of men who want to date trans women most of them are scared and ashamed.

The media already tattooed a indecent image of trans and that is the reason they are ashamed. And commonly utilized as a perfect tool to advertise adult services are the transgender dating sites. However what they see online and what is depicted on most websites will surely be eradicated when a man sees a dignified transgender women.  We may not be able to change how media is showing trans women but saving our dignity will definitely give them a reason not to generalize transgender women.

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Maki Gingoyon
Maki Gingoyon is the Chief Operating Officer and Co-founder of My Transgender Date. She is a transgender woman from the Philippines whose advocacy focuses on issues experienced by trans women. For over 10 years, Maki has used beauty pageants as a platform to increase transgender visibility. Maki was crowned Queen of Cebu in 2010, Queen of the Sky in 2013, and the winner of the Mandaue Gay Pageant in 2017. Most recently, she competed in Miss International Queen Philippines 2023 and won Best Advocacy. Today, she continues her advocacy by helping trans women and trans-oriented men find love.

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Comments (2)

  • Arielle Tjandruwati
    Can you please remove the words "top" and "bottom" from the section about sexual role on the lady's profiles. Such words are associated with gay men and are offensive to many trans wome..
    • I think it's needed to put in every website of relationship, not only Website for transsexuals women.
      Because it's a important information for dating. How you will have a relationship with a person that have a sexualitty diferent of yours? It not works! This avoid problems!
      This is what I think!
      Someone agree with me?
      Kisses =***

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