Making LDR Work on Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day seems to be the bane in couples who are in a long-distance relationship. However, it does not have to be because there are many ways to express your love from afar. Couples who are in LDRs have touch stolen away from them. The efforts to keep the fire alive must be improved.
In this guide, you’re going to discover more ways on how to make a relationship work. Don’t skip anything if you want to have a fun time in this season of love.
Why Do Some Couples Engage in Long Distance Relationships?
It’s very quick to judge couples who have this setting. This is obvious for people who have not experienced it yet. Some people will blatantly say that this kind of relationship is not real. Others also think that these partnerships are doomed to fail.
These are just noise. Don’t let these people affect what you have with your partner. Now, if you’re one of the many who is still puzzled by this kind of relationship, below are some of the common reasons as to why LDR exists.
No Ideal Prospects Nearby
High-quality people want to be with high-quality partners. They will not settle just to settle. In many scenarios, one can’t simply find a perfect fit in where they live. This is why they start their relationships with an LDR setting. This is most common in the world of TS Dating.
The demand for transgender girlfriends is high in the west. A lot of trans women get tired of most men in the east who can’t have a real relationship with them. This is why the birth from attraction to LDR is quite prevalent.
Added to that, in the US alone, some people just can’t find anyone up to par with their standards in their state. The country is huge and it’s not like they can just drive to see the person they just met online.
Dating websites are very helpful in connecting people to who they really like. However, there’s always a chance that the one who piques your interest won’t be just a jog away from you.
Financial and Career Matters
Some people already met and they really like each other. But there’s a chance that they won’t be able to live together soon. This is because their lifestyles simply couldn’t let it happen.
There is nothing wrong with planning and holding on to the love that they have. In real love, something’s got to give. This is why they choose to be in a long distance relationship rather than finding someone nearby.
Finances will get better and they will, in time, be able to live together. All they have to do is save and wait and their happy ending will be in their grasps. Not everyone is impatient. After all, the best things in life come to those who wait.
COVID-19 Pandemic
If you are reading this past 2020 and you have no idea of what this is, you must have been living under a rock. Many travel plans have gone to a halt when the pandemic struck in the first quarter of 2020. This is why couples reuniting or are planning to be together finally, are still in a long distance relationship.
Ways to Make LDR Work this Valentine’s Day
Now that you know the reasons, it’s time to take action. If you’re in a long distance relationship this Valentine’s day, you must not sit back and relax. This is the perfect time to plan so that when the day comes, you’ll be able to make your partner feel oh-so-loved even if you’re apart.
Romantic Zoom Meal
You may also use Skype or other platforms. It’s highly dependent on what the two of you are already used to. What’s important here is that you must have your partner participate.
To execute this perfectly, you must set the mood. If it’s daytime in your partner’s country, you must tell them to close or dim the lights. Just make them use candles so that the togetherness aspect is more apparent. Nothing’s romantic about fluorescent lighting so this is very important.
The table must also be set romantically, if not elegantly. Most guys don’t know how to do this but Youtube has thousands of tutorials on how to set a romantic dinner table.
Lastly, be sure that you have wine with you. Wine loosens up people and what will make your exchange of sweet nothings even sweeter. Some of you may find this corny but really, it works.
Flowers and Chocolates
This part is more for men who are dating transgender women. If you are a guy and you don’t know how valuable sending flowers to your girlfriend on Valentine’s day is, shame on you. However, it’s not too late, hence, you’re reading this.
Not everyone has the luxury to take a leave from work on Valentine’s day. This is why you must capitalize on the power of online flower shops. What would make this even more special is if you schedule the arrival of flowers while she’s at work. Her colleagues will see how much you love her and will make her feel that you are proud to be his man.
Because flowers wilt, you must include chocolates. A lot of women LOVE chocolates. Add a stuffed toy and you have the holy trinity of Valentine’s day. Yes, this is a bit cliched but it always works.
Jewelry
Just like the flowers and chocolates section, this is also geared towards the men. Not all jewelry is just shiny. Some of them are quite meaningful as well. Many jewelry pieces with real gemstones can help absorb affirmations and positive energies. If she’s not into this kind of thing, you have to explain it to her.
A lot of women don’t like receiving jewelry most especially in the early stages of the relationship. They might think that you’re trying to buy their love so you have to be careful with doing so.
Don’t give her a ring because she might think that you’re proposing. A set of necklace, earrings, and bracelet is a great idea if you can afford it. However, the most meaningful out of the three is the necklace so if you can only afford one, go for it.
Make sure that it’s something that she could wear with any outfit. Dainty gold and silver necklaces usually hit the spot. Don’t give her costume jewelry, that’s very tacky.
A Valentine’s Day Package
One of the best and underused methods of expressing love from afar is a Valentine’s Day Package. What this entails is a plan of activities that you’ve prepaid for your partner to enjoy. Great ideas are a spa day, shopping spree, city tour, etc.
Please be very creative with this. Also, consider what SHE truly enjoys and don’t make the itinerary based on what YOU enjoy. If she doesn’t like opera, don’t force her to sit through it. If she’s not into basketball, don’t give her courtside tickets.
Is Love Still Real Without Touch?
Of course! As long as the couple has CLEAR plans of being together, it’s real. Just because you don’t see the wind means it doesn’t exist. Added to that, it’s not just the touch that could help express love. After all, how are you going to truly know one’s intentions when love lies deep within one’s heart?
When it comes to knowing if love is real, you’ll never have logical answers. All you have to do is have a little faith and have clear plans.
Other Ways to Express Love
If touch is not available in a long distance relationship, you can try other methods. Below are the most effective ways of expressing how you truly feel for your partner.
Consistency
In long distance relationships, consistency is key. If you are not consistent with your communication, the other feel neglected and forgotten. You can forget about other things but never your partner.
Added to that, if you’re not consistent, you’re partner will open avenues of insecurity. These can go from thinking that you’re seeing someone new down to you’re already living with a new partner.
Sticking To the Plan
If you do not stick to the plan, you’re never going to be able to live together. If nobody is saving money and no one is taking steps in processing the required documentation, the dream will just be a dream.
To turn an LDR to living together, both people must stick to the plan.
Stay Away From Distraction
Lastly, do not entertain distractions. If someone is trying to flirt with you, immediately get rid of them. You cannot afford to be distracted most especially if both of you have been in a long-term relationship already.
Always see to it that you have your act together. If you are committed, stay committed. Don’t try to play games and involve other people because it will just end up in a mess.
The bottom line for this kind of relationship is that it should be a temporary setup. Both people in this relationship must have clear communication, understanding, and goals.
