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The Unconditional Love That Trans Women Need

Amanda Valentine Dela Cruz

No matter which stage you are in the world of trans dating, it’s never too late to know how to determine what type of unconditional love trans women needs. This will be your leverage in making them feel that you are genuine and that you’re not after them because of a certain fetish or to fulfill your fantasies.

Accepting Their Past

It goes without saying that if you’re planning to date a trans woman, you must accept her past. This doesn’t only include her looking like the other gender she’s not meant to be, but also some of the things that she had to do to get where she is today.

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If you want further clarity, this means that some of them have worked in the adult industry. Not many of them have a choice because job opportunities weren’t as rampant for trans women back in the day. And even if they were, there are still circumstances that make them feel that getting a “decent” job is out of reach.

Treating Them Equally

Misogyny is very common and sadly, it is still the norm in 2021. Don’t make her feel like she is less because of her gender identity. Never underestimate her or assume that she can’t do what you can because you have different upbringings or that you feel like you are more privileged than her.

In whatever you want, do, or feel, you must involve her and make her feel like she is wanted, needed, and required.

Understanding Where They’re Coming From

There will be times that you will disagree with each other. Be it you’re in the courting stage or she’s already your partner. You will have opposing views because you did not go through what she’s been through and vice versa.

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So if you find that what she’s saying or thinking goes against your morals, don’t discount her just yet. Maybe she has said something that’s not necessarily morally upright because she has a good reason to do so. Or maybe she said something too pragmatic which doesn’t go well with your optimistic nature because she has experienced the dark side and you have not.

Instead of crucifying her, try to learn from her just like how she can learn from you.

Not Pinpointing What They Lack

As mentioned before, upbringings between you and her may vary drastically. You have to understand that many transgender women get disowned when they come out. Some of them don’t get disowned but end up running away at a young age because of abuse and unacceptance.

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Because of this, many of them weren’t able to finish their education. Added to that, a lot of transgender women, most especially in the eastern hemisphere, are not given enough opportunity to pursue their career dreams because of discrimination in the workforce.

Never make them feel small by bringing up their educational background or lack of career pursuit because you weren’t dealt with the same cards.

Don’t Fetishize Them

There’s something more hurtful than being misgendered and that is to be objectified. She’s more than what’s between her legs or her body. Her life is more colorful not just because of the fact that she had to transition and that she had to go through so many hurdles, but because she’s an amazing individual.

An individual who’s just like you and dreams of achieving her goals.

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Never Put Them In A Box

She already knows that she’s a trans woman. You don’t have to keep on reminding her by mentioning her transness all the time. You don’t have to compare her to other trans women as well and make her feel like it’s the only league that she belongs to.

She can be many things but on top of it all, she’s a WOMAN.

They’re Not Ornamental

Many men love to display their trans girlfriends. Because a lot of trans women are stunningly beautiful and take pride in taking care of themselves. But beyond the façade, they’re not just for pure show and display. If you want her to feel like you unconditionally love her, don’t make her feel that you’re with her just because of her looks.

Know Their Dreams, Goals, and Plans

You will never go wrong if you are genuinely interested in her to the core. Knowing her dreams, goals, and plans will make her feel that you like her not because of intimacy, companionship, and other trivial things, but because you like her soul and core.

Because she understands that you like her on a deeper level, she will feel secured and know that you are willing to love her unconditionally.

Support Them

Not that transgender women are needy creatures, but everyone needs a good support system. And if you’re trying to win her heart, you’ll surely do if she sees the good in you.

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You see, when the talks of Uncondinitional Love are present, it goes without saying that it involves a lot of support. Whether it’s emotional, financial, spiritual, etc., just knowing that she has a safety net in you will compel her to make a decision of choosing you as her rightful partner.

Fight For Them

They say that being a lover is better than being a fighter. But in reality, the best man is someone who can be a great lover while being the greatest defender of the love of his life.

You see, when you enter a trans-oriented relationships, bigots will inevitably come your way. Worse is when they come her way and she doesn’t have someone on her side. Be that person, the one in a million guy who you’re supposed to be.

Be Patient With Their Transition

Lastly, if she’s medically transitioning, her mood might change from time to time. Don’t let it put you down nor make it be the basis of how you judge her character. Hormones contribute a lot in how emotional people become. Always be patient because what’s she’s going through is not easy.

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Added to that, she may also decide to undergo painful surgeries while she’s with you and the last person that she’d need is someone who will clash emotionally with her.

Now that you know what trans women need, it’s time to find the right one for you. If you haven’t already, sign-up and create a My Transgender Date account today! It’s the first decent dating website created for trans women and the men who love them.

Good luck!

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About the author

Amanda Valentine Dela Cruz
Amanda Valentine is a transgender woman who has written about trans topics for over 10 years for My Transgender Date. She is an author who made it on Amazon’s best-seller list by writing 5 books on trans women’s relationships. Her book “Dating Transgender Women for Gentlemen” peaked at #3 in the Transgender Studies category on Amazon. She started writing at the age of 10 and won a poetry contest in 4th grade which convinced her to pursue a career in literature. Her personal experiences as a transgender woman give her a unique perspective on trans topics.

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Comments (1)

  • Well this is one highly recommended article of which are many in your blog that I personally and thoroughly enjoyed to the fullest, in opening my mind and thoughts on the many fascinating fact about the mind set of the woman I hope to fall in love with here!!

    So many marriages could have been saved in the world if only this type of information was read studied and applied, I believe we wouldn’t have any evidence of mistreatment or abuse… and everyone would know that your rights ends where someone else’s begin!!

    My wish is to like myself I first must learn about my interest first because in order to solve a problem, you must first isolate the problem then go to working on your discovery which is why I am here. My interest is to know all the mistakes that are harmful and destructive behavior that can not be brought into any relationship as well well as what is acceptable and expected adequate dialogue between two adults!!

    It is with great pleasure that I have been afforded this opportunity to learn first the many aspects of this challenging lifestyle that I choose to become apart of and a credit too!!

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