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How to attract the man you want in a Trans dating site

If you’re the type of trans woman who won’t settle just for the heck of it, you have to be strategic. Today, this guide will teach you exactly how to attract the man of your dreams.

Being a highly selective individual requires skills. But like any other guide on the internet, please know that this may or may not apply to you so take everything with a grain of salt.

1. View his profile repeatedly

My transgender date is brimming with eligible bachelors. It’s very hard because it can cause a paradox of choices. Don’t get too overwhelmed with the princes you see because your only goal is to end up with one. But of course, don’t also invest in just one because you’re still not sure if this guy is going to gravitate towards you.

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But what you can do is if you find someone that you really like, it’s imperative for you to view his profile repeatedly. If you do this, he will be notified that you viewed him and that’s like getting your foot at his doorstep.

2. Send him a heart

One of the many powerful tools in My Transgender Date is the heart or favorite functionality. It allows you to show your adoration to someone without seeming desperate. Think of it as liking someone’s photo on Facebook.

Remember to only do this if he hasn’t sent you a message after viewing his profile multiple times in a week. Remember, this guide is all about attracting, not chasing.

3. Send him a message (only if it has been a while)

However, we have to be realistic from time to time. If you’re already suffering from a paradox of choices, so are the men. And if he hasn’t sent you a message after all of the efforts you’ve done in points 1 and 2, it’s time to be more aggressive.

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The goal here is to end up with the man of your dreams and you don’t want him to end up with somebody else without putting up a fight. Now, you have to do this in a very cunning way i.e. don’t send him a message like you’re an abandoned puppy looking for an owner.

Try sending these opening messages below:

  • Hello there. I just dropped by to say that you look very familiar.
  • I stumbled upon your profile and your dog is so cute!
  • Hey! Saw that you’re into ancient civilizations as well. It’s a rarity to find someone who shares the same interest!

You can concoct millions of more examples. But as you can see, the way those messages were weaved won’t make him think that you’re chasing him. He will feel like you just have a genuine interest in a fragment of his life and that you’re only trying to be friendly *wink*.

4. Have meaningful conversations

Soulmates and twin flames work differently because they look below the surface. If you’re not the type of the man of your dreams, take him to another world where he will have an epiphany that you’re the trans woman of his dreams.

If you’re a person who’s capable of having deep conversations and that he’ll feel secure sharing his utmost emotions and desires with you, you’re going to skyrocket your way to his heart.

For you to do this, avoid small talks! Only have conversations regarding passions, drive, views on current affairs, and emotions. Stop asking about the weather!

5. Know what his type is

If the guy has the upper hand by you, crushing on him, you must be strategic. Only this way will you be able to draw him to you. Having this information is vital to keep his interest in you. This will be helpful shouldn’t he be that invested because you’re not his type right off the bat.

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6. Try to be his type without losing yourself

Now that you know what his desires are, try to masquerade as the type that he’s into. But remember, only do this if you’re headed in that direction of transformation as well. Never change your core just so you could impress someone because the lies will die down soon and he’ll figure out that you’re just faking it.

a cute woman

Say he likes reading books and you’re planning to upgrade your literacy, try reading the titles that he has mentioned. If he tells you that he’s into art and you’ve discovered a newfound interest in it right before meeting him, pursue it.

7. Don’t appear desperate

We all have a façade that we show to the public. There’s nothing wrong with keeping your guard up. But one mask that you should never be wearing is the one with the look of desperation.

No man finds desperate women attractive. Desperation gives the impression of insecurity, neediness, and obsession.

8. Maintain communication but don’t nag

If you’re still getting to know the man of your dreams, don’t demand anything from him. Remember, he still has the upper hand at this point. You’re the one who’s into him, hence, he’s the man of your dreams.

a woman with a heart and laptop

He’s given you a good set of cards as he has open his life to you so just let the relationship flow naturally. Don’t force anything because he’s still at the point whereby he could drop you like a hot potato.

If you feel like he’s being too slow, be the one that keeps your bind intact. Surprise him every day with a positive version of yourself. Excite him by showing him that you’re a confident woman.

9. Let him drive the conversations

Is he flirtatious with you but he’s just not asking you to be his girlfriend yet? Thank your lucky stars! That just means that he still wants to keep you in his life and that a deeper connection will be inevitable.

Keep flirting with him and make him feel like you have a physical and emotional connection with him. Take it easy and you’ll soon be receiving news that he’s planning to come and meet you!

10.   He’s just not that into you

Now, should he be TOTALLY ignoring you after all of your efforts, it’s time to let go. He’s just not that into you! If you send him niceties and greet him regularly but he’s only responding quite sporadically, he’s not that invested in you.

a man typing on a smartphone

Know that you’re capable of more because you deserve to be treated better. What you dream man when you were 8 years old was different when you turned 15. Now that you’re 27, it has changed again and will change once you reach your 30s.

Suffice to say, you get the gist. The man of your dreams will come if you strategically position yourself. Always log in on My Transgender Date and always be present!

Good luck!

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About the author

Amanda Valentine Dela Cruz
Amanda Valentine is a transgender woman who has written about trans topics for over 10 years for My Transgender Date. She is an author who made it on Amazon’s best-seller list by writing 5 books on trans women’s relationships. Her book “Dating Transgender Women for Gentlemen” peaked at #3 in the Transgender Studies category on Amazon. She started writing at the age of 10 and won a poetry contest in 4th grade which convinced her to pursue a career in literature. Her personal experiences as a transgender woman give her a unique perspective on trans topics.

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