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Why Trans Women Must Set Boundaries in Dating

One of the best-kept secrets of trans women in dating is setting boundaries. Today is the revelation of that secret and why you must join the bandwagon for you to improve your dating life and secure the man of your dreams.

Please know that this may or may not apply to you so take everything with a grain of salt.

Without Boundaries

Before putting your feet in the waters, it’s smart for you to know what you’re missing out on first. If you don’t have an idea of this, you won’t have a proper assessment if you indeed need these boundaries in your life. Without boundaries, you’re bound to always be…

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Have you ever wondered why men always neglect you? You really don’t have to look further. You’re probably not setting enough boundaries for them to value your presence in this partnership.

If you’re not vocal with how you don’t want to be treated, they’re going to think that you’re fine with taking this type of blow, or any blow for that matter, because you’re obsessively in love.

Taken Advantage Of

Being ignored and left out sucks a lot, but being taken advantage of is just as bad. Yes, it’s good to feel needed from time to time but it’s not okay to be consistently abused. If you’re experiencing this, know that you’ve not set proper boundaries right off the bat.

Muddy Future

Do you often enter relationships whereby your partners are not very clear when it comes to the future? Why would they if from the very beginning, you give an air that you’re not looking for a serious partner?

Men who are timewasters are afraid of trans women who know what they want and are not afraid to get it. If from the beginning, you tell them that you’re not in the relationship to waste your time and you’re looking forward to settling down, they’re going to know not to play around.

Settling For Less

When you’re perpetually lenient, you’re always going to settle for less. Because you’re not strict with your desires and boundaries, the men you’re going to attract are the ones who are probably thinking that you’re desperate and they could get away with however they want to act in the relationship.

As harsh as it sounds, most women without boundaries are undeniably desperate. This kind of energy is deadly to anyone who’s wanting to spend a lifetime with someone who they love and deserve.

Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda

Now, if you do successfully get into a relationship but you’ve failed to set boundaries, and you feel like your relationship is… just okay, you’re going to live a long life of regrets and shoulda, woulda, couldas.

For example, you settled for someone who’s really not your type and you don’t feel inspired to be with them but you chose to stay with them, your heart’s going to suffer. Worse is when the right one finally comes along and you’re already with someone else, will you be able to commit infidelity in order to follow your heart?

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With Boundaries

After reading all of that and you’ve decided that you don’t want to date without boundaries anymore, it’s time to reinforce that feeling with how it would probably turn out if you start dating wisely!

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Feeling Special

People say that relationships are always never equal, there’s always going to be someone who’s going to love the other more and will have the shorter end of the stick so to speak.

If you want to have the upper hand, setting boundaries should be properly observed. This way, he will always do whatever it takes not to cross those boundaries in order to always make you happy and feel special.

Propelled To Do Better Things

Because you’re a woman who sets boundaries, you’ll only attract men who are supportive and will propel you to greater heights. They believe in you enough to not do things that they know you’ll be unhappy with and this faith extends to your dreams, visions, and goals.

Added to that, this also means that they respect you because they know not to cross the boundaries you’ve set. A person who respects is most likely to be willing to believe and support your dreams, whatever it may be.


Sometimes, insecurity can be caused by the action of others. Don’t always blame yourself. The only reason to blame was your lack of setting boundaries in your past relationships. Now that you have this piece of information, your chances of stumbling upon bad people will lessen.

Imagine the feeling of being in a relationship wherein you’re always confident and you won’t have to walk on eggshells. If you are secure with yourself, emotions, and looks, you’ll be able to use your energy in much better things that will be purposeful in being the best version of yourself.

Settling With A Soulmate

A soulmate is someone with who you should be compatible. If you’re not, you’re probably dating the wrong person. Stop settling for less and wasting your time just because you’ve not properly set boundaries. When you know what you want and you’re vocal about it, you’ll turn into a magnet of your potential partners who DESERVE to be with you.

You may still be doubtful and skeptical about this word but you’ll really never know until you try. Just a little tweak of going out with men who respect your boundaries will enlighten you that this planet is not that bad after all.

No Regrets

Many people who settle quickly and easily often regret their premature decisions. Their lives are filled with shoulda, woulda, couldas, and they feel that they’re destined to be miserable.

If you’re reading this, you probably still have a lot of time to only give yourself the BEST that life has to offer. This is why you must always be selective and you shouldn’t give your heart too easily. Let them chase you, it’s time to flip the switch!

Set those boundaries today and find your mate in My Transgender Date! You’ll never know who’s online now if you don’t try!

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About the author

Amanda Valentine Dela Cruz
Amanda Valentine is a transgender woman who has written about trans topics for over 10 years for My Transgender Date. She is an author who made it on Amazon’s best-seller list by writing 5 books on trans women’s relationships. Her book “Dating Transgender Women for Gentlemen” peaked at #3 in the Transgender Studies category on Amazon. She started writing at the age of 10 and won a poetry contest in 4th grade which convinced her to pursue a career in literature. Her personal experiences as a transgender woman give her a unique perspective on trans topics.

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